1960′s Wedding Inspiration + Happy Anniversary Mom and Dad!
Car: Alisandra Photography via SMP Bridesmaid, Typewriter, Bride, Gloves/Purse, Table: Divine Light Photography via SMP Bride & Groom: Angi Welsch via SMP
Today’s 1960′s bridal inspiration board is in honor of my parents, who got married on April 12th, 1969. Today is their 43rd wedding anniversary!! Last year I wrote a post for their anniversary, and although it’s old news to them, it was heartfelt, so I’m going to share it again. (Plus a bonus at the end.)
This is what I learned from my parents for how to make a marriage last:
1. Be best friends – Do all the things that best friends do. Talk. Listen. Laugh. Take a genuine interest in the things that are important to one another. Call each other. Do fun things together. Have adventures. Be silly.
2. Hold hands – Physical touch is important. And sometimes the simplest things – like holding hands – can remind you of your connection. It’s just a quiet, unobtrusive way of saying “Hey. I like you a lot.”
3. Sing each other’s praises – I recently heard that the #1 sign that divorce is looming is… complaining! Then I realized that I never really heard my parents complain about each other (except in jest.) Obviously, I’m their child, so I’m the last person they should be complaining to… but many parents do! Instead, I heard them say what they liked about each other. When you feel like complaining about or to your spouse, think of a compliment or praise instead!
4. Get support – From when I was young (I think even before I was born actually…) my parents attended a group called Marriage Encounter. They had workshops and retreats to encourage and rejuvinate married couples. Maybe those groups aren’t for you, but having a time and place to refresh your marriage, and a group of people to encourage you in doing so is a pretty great idea, if you ask me.
5. Have faith – in each other… of course. But I believe faith in God played a key role in my parent’s marriage. And let’s face it, having someone to rely on besides another flawed human being can’t be a bad idea.
6. Laugh! I think this one’s self-explanatory. Being able to laugh together through all of life’s crazy ups and downs can not be underestimated.
Here’s what my nieces and nephews had to say about marriage in general, and my parents’ marriage specifically:
Ally, age 12: “Marriage is important because it’s important to have support. I think it’s very cool that Grammy and Bumpa have been married so long.”
Tommy, age 7: “Marriage is important so you could have someone to keep you company. Also, if you want kids you could have kids. Happy anniversary Grammy and Bumpa!”
Bennett, age 5 (when told they are celebrating their 43rd anniversary today): “That sounds exciting!”
Elodie, age 3: “Marriage is when you get together and have a special day to celebrate and do that.”
Happy anniversary Mom and Dad!! We love you!!!