Hi guys! I have a great guest post for you today! Erin sent in this great piece about her experience with the ways that wedding music can go astray. She has a very witty sense of humor, I hope you enjoy reading this as much as I did.
Two hours outside of San Antonio, Texas, on the porch of a motel described as “rustic” but which was in reality, “…not finished. Watch out for the gaps under the doors – the scorpions and tarantulas can fit under them,” I stood, sweating and braless in 110 degree heat, waiting for the bride to make her procession down the aisle. All of the bridesmaids were braless; the bride had, at the last minute, changed her mind about the dresses and opted for halter tops WITHOUT TELLING US so that we could pack the appropriate under apparel. We had reached the altar and turned to watch our friend take her final steps as a single. The motel clerk pressed PLAY and her song started: “Champagne Supernova” by Oasis. She made it three steps and the song started skipping. Kelly stopped. “Start it again!” she cried and ran back. The song started again. She made it half way and it started skipping. “Do it again!” she said. The clerk tried one more time. This time Kelly made it only a step before it started skipping. Even the song knew it was wrong.
The music you select to play at your wedding reflects a lot of things: Who you are as a couple, what kind of dancing you hope to happen out on the floor, whether or not you are an Oasis fan. It’s a delicate balance between the music you love and the music you imagine your guests might enjoy. I once went to a wedding that played only country (oddly, not the Texas wedding) and only the bride, groom, and five of their friends danced. At another wedding the couple asked their friends to make requests and so the 20-somethings rocked out while the older folks smiled politely. If the goal is to make everyone happy (hey, you did ASK them to buy you expensive gifts and possibly fly and pay for hotels to witness your public love fest) then you want to think about a range of songs that every age group will appreciate. Classics are good and span more than one generation. And even if people don’t know the dance steps, 40’s swing will make everyone feel like cutting a rug.
Then there are the more specific selections. What plays while the bride walks down the aisle (note: check the CD for scratches BEFORE the ceremony), the first dance, and the father/daughter and mother/son dances. The only people who dance that first dance are the newlyweds. And if they want their friends and family to witness them mouth the words, “Where were you while we were getting high?” as they stare dreamily into each other’s eyes, that’s their right. The rest of us can just be thankful they only get one day to play DJ. In the end, timeless is great but not better than whatever song means the most to you.
Thanks so much for sharing with us Erin!