Are You There Community? It’s Me, Colleen

It’s honesty time around here.

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I have been struggling with the goals, vision, and general management of this blog for almost a year now. Prior to that I pretty much neglected the blog for the 8 months that my husband and I were engaged, because it was just too overwhelming to balance work, planning a wedding, and blogging.

Since I have returned, I have attempted to get the blog back to what it used to be… but something is missing. And I know what it is. It’s COMMUNITY.

Recently I was reading through (very) old posts, and I noticed a theme: lots and lots of comments. When I started out, I managed to find myself in a community of amazing wedding bloggers without whom this blog would not have gone anywhere. They supported me, encouraged me, and they got me through the difficult times. (Blogging may seem easy but believe me, it isn’t.)

I’ve realized now that it wasn’t about the mutual promotion that we gave each other, or about what we could do for each other, it was just about being with one another in the process. I don’t miss the comments because they made me look good. I miss them because I felt like someone was reading, someone cared.

You see, the wedding blogging world is very different from the world of other bloggers. Our target readers are brides (and grooms, but more often brides) planning their weddings. They are a transient audience. Once their wedding is over, they have no need for us anymore. There is always, of course, the wedding-obsessed single girl with no boyfriend in sight (like I once was) but even she will eventually find her man, get married, and the obsession will fizzle out.

I write this blog for brides. I originally intended it, and still intend it to be a resource for planning music for your wedding day. I don’t want to be a cookie cutter wedding blog, and try to be like everyone else, because my goals for this blog are different from the goals of the average wedding blog. But as I struggle with this, and as I try to “reinvent the wheel” (so to speak) on a regular basis, continually writing about wedding music, there is a bigger issue at hand. Who is listening? Who is with me?

So, with all that said, I will not be posting for the next couple of weeks or so. Instead, I will focus all my blogging energy on going out to find the community I once had, and lost. I will be commenting, tweeting, facebooking, etc. to support, encourage, and promote my fellow wedding bloggers. Because community is a two-way street. I was the one who dropped the ball, walked away from it for months, and then selfishly expected it to be tossed back to me when I returned.

So here I come, wedding bloggers. Just know that I’m not doing it because I need you to promote me back, I’m just doing it because I don’t want to be alone in this.

And for the rest of you, look for me on social media, and for some amazing inspiration from my colleagues.

xo

Laura Hernandez - March 24, 2014 - 10:52 pm

I think this is a GREAT idea! I’m in the same boat. I blog a few times a week and when you receive a comment, it makes it all worth it. Comment love here I come!

Stephanie Howard - March 25, 2014 - 3:47 am

It’s not a bad idea about what you are doing, but in order to build you need to have something for them to come to while you are still building. So maybe you can just update with old posts while you are looking for new material. It may still help someone where they are now. I used your blog as inspiration for my wedding which was over 2 years ago. I still like to come here to hear about your love for your husband and all things wedding. I think now that you are married it may be harder to have the passion to help other brides, but just remember that you were there too. and even with all your resources that maybe while planning you felt alone or like no one was listening. Well I was listening. I don’t comment often( I think the last time may have been about Ryan Gosling) but we are still here!! And we will be whenever you are ready to talk! Good luck to you!

Mini Playlists | 50′s Pop

Welcome to our new feature – mini playlists! An inspiration board + mini playlist to shake things up and keep it interesting. Starting with… 50′s pop! Inspired by this inspiration shoot on Green Wedding Shoes photographed by Christa-Taylor Photography. And what better to accompany 50′s pop art inspiration than 50′s pop music?? Enjoy!

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Bridal Entrance: At Last – Etta James

Recessional: Let The Good Times Roll – Shirley & Lee

Reception Entrance: Let’s Have A Party – Wanda Jackson

First Dance: In The Still Of The Night – The Five Satins

Father/Daughter Dance: Ain’t That Love – Ray Charles

Cake Cutting: You Send Me – Sam Cooke

Vintage Inspiration

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Books: Frost Photography via SMP Feet and Dress: Michele M. Waite via Ruffled Mason jar: Jen Rodriguez Photography via Etsy Tea cup: Wendy Alana Photography via SMP

For vintage inspired soundtrack see:

The Classics Part 1

The Classics Part 2

1950′s and 60′s Dancing Tunes

Catherine’s Oldies + Shag + Pop Playlist

Marisa’s Tropical + Reggae + Oldies Playlist

Kim’s Pop + Country + Oldies Playlist

Real Wedding | Michael & Jenni

This lovely and fun-filled wedding was sent to us by Monika Greenway Photography. We love the fun details – superhero t-shirts, spiderman cufflinks, and fox details representing their last name – Foxe! They had a beautiful ceremony and the reception looked like loads of fun. The bride even serenaded her hubby with a special love song!

Michael  & Jenni met while playing on a softball team. Jenni knew he was into her because he would look at her and when Jenni would look his way he would look back. This process continued. They speak their own language and have a personal accent that is only spoken to each other, they call it their “special voice”. He likes comics and is a Doctor, and she has a passion for church ministry and taught middle schoolers while living in California. They now are off to live a new journey together as Mr. and Mrs. Dr. Michael & Jenni Foxe.

From Jenni:  ”Michael and I are huge fans of Back to the Future, early when we were dating he mentioned that he wanted his first song to be “Earth Angel.” My heart melted that day, I have always wanted that to be my first song as husband and wife.

[As a surprise] I sang Michael, Misty, a jazz classic written by Erroll Garner in 1954. I am a sucker for songs with great lyrics, because they are crafted and they make the song meaningful. I believe that songs are an amazing outlet to express how you feel. I love Misty and I am always up for surprising Michael.  He didn’t know what was going on, which was half the fun. Singing to him was just my way of expressing, and reminding him how much I love him.”

Photography: Monika Greenway Ceremony: Asbury Methodist Church | Reception: Sugar Barge | Music: Eastwood Entertainment | Dress: Maggie Sottero from J’aime Bridal | Hair: Interlude Salon

What a beautiful day!