Your Soundtrack | Caitlyn (Vintage Shabby Chic Wedding + Pop/Rock/Oldies Playlist)

Your Soundtrack = My response to brides asking for music help. If you would like help with music for your wedding day, contact me! I’d love to do what I can.

Today’s soundtrack is for Caitlyn. Here’s what Caitlyn had to say: “I want you to put together a soundtrack for my wedding!!! We’re going for the whole vintage-shabby chic theme! We’re two VERY outgoing people who love all genres of music (with an exception of classical). He’s very into alternative and I’m very into laid back, relaxing music (Colbie Cailet, Jack Johnson, Norah Jones, etc.), and my favorite band is The Beatles. We would like to have several of the fun, upbeat, dance songs (cha cha slide) and a lot of the classics from Frank Sinatra, Buddy Holiday, etc. included as well. We do love Texas Country and would love to have a mix of that. Casey Donahew Band, Josh Abbott, Randy Rogers, Stoney LaRue, etc. Thank you SO MUCH!”

She also included a LONG list of songs from her fiance (love when grooms have opinions!) so I included all the wedding appropriate songs from his list.;)Hope this helps you Caitlyn!

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Cocktails/Dinner

Norah Jones – Come Away With Me
Alan Jackson – Remember When
Sara Bareilles – I Choose You
Frank Sinatra – Love Is Here To Stay
Stone Temple Pilots – Interstate Love Song
Josh Abbott Band feat. Kacey Musgraves – Oh, Tonight
Colbie Caillat – Make It Rain
The Cranberries – Linger
Stevie Ray Vaughan – Texas Flood
Jason Mraz – I Melt With You
Old Crow Medicine Show – Wagon Wheel
Nat King Cole – L-O-V-E
Randy Rogers Band – One Woman
The Beatles – Something
Jason Mraz – I’m Yours
Lady Antebellum – Just a Kiss
Jack Johnson – Better Together
Eric Clapton/B.B. King – Come Rain Or Come Shine
Josh Abbott Band – She’s Like Texas
Stone Temple Pilots – Atlanta
311 – Love Song
Jason Mraz – You & I Both
Phillip Phillips – Gone, Gone, Gone
Dave Matthews Band – You & Me
Casey Donahew Band – White Trash Story
Coldplay – Til Kingdom Come
Stoney LaRue – Oklahoma Breakdown
Colbie Caillat – I Do
Maroon 5 – She Will Be Loved
Incubus – Pardon Me
Fun. – Some Nights
311 – Amber
Randy Rogers Band – Kiss Me In The Dark
Dave Matthews Band – Steady As We Go
Stevie Ray Vaughan – Life By The Drop
Stoney LaRue – Velvet
Frank Sinatra – The Way You Look Tonight
Bruno Mars – Marry You
Plain White T’s – Rhythm Of Love
Colbie Caillat – Like Yesterday
Hunter Hayes – Wanted
Stevie Ray Vaughan – Pride and Joy
The Beatles – I Will
Jason Mraz – Lucky
Pearl Jam – Yellow Ledbetter
Fun. – Carry On
Etta James – At Last
Mazzy Star – Fade Into You
Pearl Jam – Sirens
Eric Clapton/B.B. King – Marry You
Casey Donahew Band – Double-Wide Dream
Frank Sinatra – Fly Me To The Moon
Train – Marry Me
Led Zeppelin – When The Levee Breaks
Old Crow Medicine Show – Down Home Girl
Adele – Make You Feel My Love
The Beatles – I Want to Hold Your Hand
Red Hot Chili Peppers – Snow [Hey Oh]
Stone Temple Pilots – Plush (Acoustic)
Randy Rogers Band – Interstate
The Lumineers – Ho Hey
Casey Donahew Band – Stockyards
Norah Jones – The Nearness Of You
The Cranberries – Zombie
Pink Floyd – Wish You Were Here
OneRepublic – Good Life
Old Crow Medicine Show – I Hear Them All
Ray LaMontagne – You Are The Best Thing
Josh Abbott Band – Touch
Matt White – Love
Incubus – Wish You Were Here
Stoney LaRue – Feet Don’t Touch the Ground
The Beatles – And I Love Her
Stevie Ray Vaughan – Tin Pan Alley
Dean Martin – Ain’t That A Kick In The Head

Dancing

Jackson 5 – ABC
AC/DC – Back in Black
Michael Jackson – Billy Jean
Macklemore & Ryan Lewis feat. Ray Dalton – Can’t Hold Us
Mr. C The Slide Man – Cha Cha Slide
Cupid – Cupid Shuffle
Usher – DJ Got Us Fallin’ in Love
The Contours – Do You Love Me
Michael Jackson – Don’t Stop ‘Til You Get Enough
Pitbull – Don’t Stop the Party
Wang Chung – Everybody Have Fun Tonight
Chris Brown – Forever
The Spencer Davis Group – Gimme Some Lovin’
Jerry Lee Lewis – Great Balls Of Fire
The Rolling Stones – (I Can’t Get No) Satisfaction
Jackson 5 – I Want You Back
Madonna – Like A Prayer
Bon Jovi – Livin’ On A Prayer
Bruno Mars – Locked Out Of Heaven
Red Hot Chili Peppers – Love Rollercoaster
The B-52′s – Love Shack
M83 – Midnight City
Maroon 5 – Moves Like Jagger
INXS – Need You Tonight
LMFAO – Party Rock Anthem
Def Leppard – Pour Some Sugar On Me
AC/DC – Rock n Roll Train
The Isley Brothers – Shout
Guns N’ Roses – Sweet Child O’ Mine
Lynyrd Skynyrd – Sweet Home Alabama
Michael Jackson – The Way You Make Me Feel
Pitbull – Timber
Bruno Mars – Treasure
The Beatles – Twist And Shout
Rihanna – We Found Love
Usher – Yeah!
Bon Jovi – You Give Love A Bad Name
AD/CD – You Shook Me All Night Long

Marriage Mondays | Communication

I’m guessing that a lot of the marriage books out there will stress the importance of communication in marriage. If not, they’re probably missing something. Here are a few things I’ve learned from experience (so far) on this topic.

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1. Know your style(s) 

My husband thinks everything through completely before discussing it. And I would say that this scripture is his guideline for communicating “…whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable – if anything is excellent or praiseworthy – think (read: TALK) about such things.” -Philippians 4:8

I wish I could say the same. I am a verbal processor – I figure out how I feel about things and/or what I want or need to do about it AS I talk about it. Whether it’s pure and lovely or messy and ugly, I have to talk it through.

2. Be willing to modify your style

I will probably be working on this one for the rest of my life, and my husband may be as well. But what we have learned, from having such different styles, is that we won’t get anywhere without a little compromise.

Because my husband tends to think (a lot, and for a long time) before he speaks, I sometimes become aggravated when I am yammering on and he continues to say nothing. He, in turn, gets tired of the endless flow coming out of my mouth. When I finally realized, the problem, I (like always) discussed it with him. I let him know that if he doesn’t participate in my “verbal processing process” (if you will) the process will just. keep. going. He informed me, in turn, that he doesn’t always know what to say or needs time to think about it. I told him that all he has to say are things like “I understand” or “I see why you feel that way” or “I agree” (only if he does, of course.) This will make me feel validated, which is an important part of the process for me, and I will probably stop talking and not continue to beat a dead horse. If he has more to say later, when he has thought it through, he is welcome to do so.

I, on the other hand, have learned to tone it down. (Well… I’m a work in progress.) When I talk to my mother, sister, or girlfriend, I could rant about 17 subjects all in one breath, intertwining them all together even if they have nothing to do with one another, and she will follow along effortlessly. This is just how God made the female brain. But the male brain likes to work on one thing at a time. I knew this, vaguely, before marriage, but I didn’t take it to heart until living with a man who just can’t follow my 35 tangents in one conversation. So I do my best to stick to one subject at a time.

3. Do not expect your spouse to read your mind

I really want my husband to read my mind sometimes. I want him to just know what I want, what I need, or what I am feeling, without me saying anything. But this is unrealistic. I have made a conscious effort (since I know this can be a wife’s downfall) to communicate what I want/need/feel and not resent my husband for not just magically knowing it. I do not expect him to read my mind – so when he does know what I want, need, or feel without me saying it (which he often does) I appreciate it all the more!

4. Leave some things unsaid

My pastor always says, “Leave 3 things unsaid each day.” It’s a good policy.

I also like this one. Before you speak, think…. Is it:

True

Helpful

Inspiring

Necessary

Kind

(If you didn’t notice, that spells think. It’s a good way to remember!) Leave out what isn’t necessary, especially if it isn’t kind, true or helpful. I think “inspiring” is kind of a filler to complete the acronym, but it’s always nice to inspire too.;)

5. When in doubt, communicate

Despite my last point, communication is important. There have been times when I second guess whether I should communicate something with my husband because it might not be entirely necessary or kind. But then I feel like it’s festering inside me. That doesn’t work either.

Don’t overthink it too much. If you’re angry, wait it out until you’re in a better space to discuss an issue. If the conversation is going in circles, take a break. If you’ve said something that offends your spouse, apologize before continuing. But communicating is one of the most important parts of marriage, if you ask me. Whatever you do, don’t neglect to do it.

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Top 40 | January – March 2014

Happy Wednesday lovelies! I haven’t done a top 40 post in awhile – but I’ll make up for lost time! Here are my favorites for weddings from the January, February and March charts. You can listen to the top 40 songs from all of 2013 through today here. (There are stars next to the favorites for weddings.)

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1. Dark Horse – Katy Perry

This song has a strange tempo that’s not quite danceable but a little too club-ish for cocktail hour. But it’s super popular so I just thought I’d throw it in there for good measure.

2. XO – Beyonce

Another sort of strange tempo. It would be more fitting for cocktail/dinner time. The lyrics are about love, so if you’re a Beyonce fan, it’s a good one to include.

3. Adore You – Miley Cyrus

If you can stand Miley Cyrus, which I assume most people can’t. But just in case she still has fans who are marrying age… The lyrics are very romantic.

4. Chocolate – The 1975

This would a fun song to dance to for those who aren’t big fans of hip hop. The tempo is a little slow for dancing but if you have a fun group who can make it work, go for it!

5. Take Me Home – Cash Cash feat. Bebe Rexha

Definitely danceable. About a minute into the song it really hits its groove.

6. Hey Brother – Avicii

A nice one for cocktail/dinner time. Nice lyrics.

7. Talk Dirty – Jason Derulo feat. 2 Chains

Super danceable. Warning: explicit lyrics.

8. Best Day Of My Life – American Authors

Super cute song. Great for cocktail/dinner time. It could even be used in the ceremony for a nontraditional couple. “This is gonna be the best day of my life.” Yep, it pretty much is.

9. Can’t Remember To Forget You – Shakira feat. Rihanna

Danceable. Aren’t all Shakira songs? Her hips don’t lie.

10. Happy – Pharrell

My favorite song this year so far, and I highly doubt a song can top it. It just… makes me… happy!! Great to dance to, and would also be a super cute recessional song!

11. Animals – Martin Garrix

If you’re into techno, or like to go to raves, this one is for you. It has no lyrics, but many many beats.

12. Classic – MKTO

An upbeat, cute song about love for cocktail/dinner time.

13. All Of Me – John Legend (love)

I love this one too. A lot. Such great lyrics about real love. For cocktail/dinner time – some couples may even use it for their first dance!

14. Mmm Yeah – Austin Mahone feat. Pitbull

I’m not a big fan of songs that have mmm in the title. But it’s super danceable.

15. Turn Down For What – DJ Snake and Lil’ John

This song makes my ears bleed. But it’s danceable – especially if your guests are into krumping.

16. Ain’t It Fun – Paramore

It’s not about love, but I’m just biased toward Paramore. It’s a nice one for cocktail/dinner time.

17. Latch – Disclosure feat. Sam Smith

The lyrics are about love. It has one of those medium tempos that are hard to place… so know your crowd.

18. Not A Bad Thing – Justin Timberlake

Super sweet love song from JT! For cocktail/dinner time.

So there you have it! If you haven’t already, check out our favorites from 2013.

Marriage Mondays | Opposites Attract

Welcome to a new series! Marriage Mondays! I am not a marriage expert, just learning as I go, but I thought it would be fun to share my thoughts.

My husbands and I are opposites in so many ways. In a psychology class I took in graduate school I was told that the expression “birds of a feather flock together” is more accurate than the expression “opposites attract,” as it pertains to relationships. Hmm…

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I suppose, in the grand scheme of things, we are alike. We both love Jesus. This is important. We are both, in my estimation, pretty easy going people as a whole, but also uncompromisingly passionate about the things that matter most to us. We are both sort of hippies – if we didn’t have jobs and ‘sponsibilities, we would probably both be thrilled to spend a few weeks camping in the woods and exploring the great outdoors. We both love music.

But in a lot of ways, we are polar opposites. I am convinced that God designed us this way so that we are forced to learn from each other. Because really, there is no other option.

He is clean. I am messy.

He is a morning person. I am a night person.

He likes schedules. I like spontaneity.

He processes everything silently. I process everything out loud and with as many words as possible.

He has biblical wisdom. I have street smarts. (Ok just kidding. Shall we call it… emotional/relational intelligence?)

He is methodical. I am lackadaisical.

He is extroverted. I am introverted.

I would go on, but I think you get the point.

One of the most profound statements made by the pastor who did our premarital counseling was… your spouse is like a mirror. They will help you to see yourself. The good and the bad.

I have learned three major things from my mirror: optimism, compromise, and humility. First, I have to appreciate my spouse for all that he is, even when the differences threaten to drive me crazy. (I call this optimism.) Second, we have to find compromises that work for both of us. And third, we both have to recognize our weaknesses (which have a tendency to become blatantly obvious, since they are usually the others’ strengths) and be willing to grow/change/evolve. It’s humbling.

Some examples…

I love my husband because he is passionate. This also means that he is intense about things. For instance, it’s very difficult for us to find television shows that we can watch together because he hates anything with too much sexual content/humor or anything too dark, depressing or violent. So basically… everything on television. And I LOVE tv. The positive side of this is that I have greatly reduced the amount of material with which I rot my brain. (My remaining guilty pleasure is the Bachelor/Bachelorette, which I watch with a girlfriend.) I have to keep in mind that if my husband weren’t passionate, he wouldn’t be this intense. (He cares about what he watches because he wants everything he does to be pleasing to God.) If he wasn’t passionate, I’m pretty sure I wouldn’t be that into him. I mean looks don’t last forever, amiright? So that’s the optimism talking. The compromise = Parenthood. One of the best shows ever created. It’s not Leave It To Beaver, but it is tame enough for my man to enjoy, and the writing + acting + character development makes me very happy. When we watch tv, that’s what we watch. When we finish the series we will have to find a new compromise.

He loves to keep busy… to feel that he is accomplishing things all the time. I love to relax. He loves to do ministry and would be happy to be around people 24/7. I need lots and lots of quiet time to balance the people time, or I will go bananas. The optimistic side of me reminds myself that this comes back, once again, to his passion for God and people. The compromise is that we do a LOT of ministry, but we also have a lot of mellow and relaxing time at home. (When we first got married I could almost see the ants in his pants during these times, but he has adjusted to life with an introvert.) And we both have a constant awareness of our differences in this area and how we can grow as a result.

And as you can see from the list above, I have a lot of not so amazing qualities that my husband has learned to be optimistic about. He said in his marriage vows to me that he would always focus on what he loves about me and not on my flaws. So far he has done an amazing job at keeping that promise. He tells me that because of the fact that relationships with people are my #1 priority in life, cleaning and organization take a back seat. Which is totally true, and I love that he gets that. Not that he doesn’t get annoyed with the mess sometimes… but he doesn’t dwell on it. This is an area that I am always working on – that’s the humility part. We’ve made several compromises in that area as well. (He does dishes, I do laundry, etc.)

So that is what I’ve learned so far from being as different as can be from the man I married. Looking forward to a lifetime of learning.

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