Thursday Tips | Bouquet Toss Alternative

Ok, so this is more of an idea than it is a tip, but I think it’s a good one, so here goes…
Photo by Jessica Velarde Photography. More from this shoot here.

I’m going to be completely honest with you. I hate the bouquet toss. I’m normally a big fan of traditions, but this one I could do without! Maybe this is due to attending too many weddings as a single lady, and feeling like I’m on parade in front of everyone. Maybe I’m transferring my own personal issues onto the innocent event, but I feel like I may as well have a sign on me that says, “can’t keep a man.” And this is not just as I get older. I was forced to go up for the bouquet toss from a very young age, and even then I hated it. I usually have people dragging me out from under a table and onto the dance floor to be a part of it. At one wedding, the bouquet literally fell at my feet. The bride’s sixteen year old cousin picked it up. It was a Mormon wedding, so she was likely to get married first anyway.

Ok… enough of my own pathology, and onto the purpose of this entry. An alternative to the bouquet toss.

If you have anything close to my sentiments, you might like to replace the traditional bouquet toss with: a bouquet presentation. What in the world is a bouquet presentation? I’ll tell you! The DJ or band leader will call married couples, one by one onto the floor according to how long they’ve been married, starting with the newest couples. The couple that has been married the longest is the last to be called, and as a celebration of their successful marriage, the bride presents them with the bouquet. Cute, don’t you think?

If you are all about the bouquet toss, please don’t be offended by this post. There’s a good chance I will have one at my own wedding, mostly because I’ll be so excited to be on the other side of it! I do think, however, that this is a great alternative, so I thought I’d share.

Becky {Bow Ties + Bliss} - May 20, 2011 - 6:00 am

I love this idea! I agree about the bouquet toss, I’m not a huge fan either. This is a great alternative :)

Lauren Kelly - May 20, 2011 - 6:02 am

I’m a fan of both the bouquet toss and the special gift for the couple who has been married the longest. What a great idea to combine them!

Mel {The Oceanside Bride} - May 20, 2011 - 6:07 am

Definitely a great idea! I’ve been wondering if we’ll do one or not simply because we don’t have many single friends left. But this is certainly a great alternative!

Lauren @ ELD - May 20, 2011 - 6:07 am

OMG love this!! Such a great idea!! :)

Kristen {Savvy Deets Bridal} - May 20, 2011 - 6:09 am

What a sweet idea! I’ve heard of the dance celebrating the married couples, but presenting the bouquet is really sweet!

Jess - May 20, 2011 - 6:10 am

Oh my goodness you’re so funny! Part of this had me cracking up! I started laughing out loud. literally.

I actually really like this idea though. I hate the bouquet toss too! Which is ironic because we had one at our wedding. I suppose I just didn’t think there were alternatives. It seemed like one of those wedding traditions you just had to do. I like this much better though!

Sara - May 20, 2011 - 6:11 am

i completely agree! I am not a fan of the bouquet toss at all for all the reasons you mentioned… the first wedding I went to that didn’t have one did exactly what you suggested & the bride gave her bouquet to her grandmother- it was so sweet! For our wedding, I kept my bouquet and dried it. We have it in a vase in the guest room for now.

Colleen - May 20, 2011 - 7:11 am

Thanks ladies!! I’m glad people loved this idea as much as I did.

@Jess: I’m glad I entertained you! You entertain me often. I actually didn’t participate in the bouquet toss at your wedding. (I dodged a bullet on that one! Ha ha.) I was just coming out from the photo booth, and some of the guys saw me and were waving me over, but you were just about to throw it so I just stayed away. Phew! Lucky for you, you don’t ever have to participate in any ever again!

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