Top 40 | January – March 2014

Happy Wednesday lovelies! I haven’t done a top 40 post in awhile – but I’ll make up for lost time! Here are my favorites for weddings from the January, February and March charts. You can listen to the top 40 songs from all of 2013 through today here. (There are stars next to the favorites for weddings.)

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1. Dark Horse – Katy Perry

This song has a strange tempo that’s not quite danceable but a little too club-ish for cocktail hour. But it’s super popular so I just thought I’d throw it in there for good measure.

2. XO – Beyonce

Another sort of strange tempo. It would be more fitting for cocktail/dinner time. The lyrics are about love, so if you’re a Beyonce fan, it’s a good one to include.

3. Adore You – Miley Cyrus

If you can stand Miley Cyrus, which I assume most people can’t. But just in case she still has fans who are marrying age… The lyrics are very romantic.

4. Chocolate – The 1975

This would a fun song to dance to for those who aren’t big fans of hip hop. The tempo is a little slow for dancing but if you have a fun group who can make it work, go for it!

5. Take Me Home – Cash Cash feat. Bebe Rexha

Definitely danceable. About a minute into the song it really hits its groove.

6. Hey Brother – Avicii

A nice one for cocktail/dinner time. Nice lyrics.

7. Talk Dirty – Jason Derulo feat. 2 Chains

Super danceable. Warning: explicit lyrics.

8. Best Day Of My Life – American Authors

Super cute song. Great for cocktail/dinner time. It could even be used in the ceremony for a nontraditional couple. “This is gonna be the best day of my life.” Yep, it pretty much is.

9. Can’t Remember To Forget You – Shakira feat. Rihanna

Danceable. Aren’t all Shakira songs? Her hips don’t lie.

10. Happy – Pharrell

My favorite song this year so far, and I highly doubt a song can top it. It just… makes me… happy!! Great to dance to, and would also be a super cute recessional song!

11. Animals – Martin Garrix

If you’re into techno, or like to go to raves, this one is for you. It has no lyrics, but many many beats.

12. Classic – MKTO

An upbeat, cute song about love for cocktail/dinner time.

13. All Of Me – John Legend (love)

I love this one too. A lot. Such great lyrics about real love. For cocktail/dinner time – some couples may even use it for their first dance!

14. Mmm Yeah – Austin Mahone feat. Pitbull

I’m not a big fan of songs that have mmm in the title. But it’s super danceable.

15. Turn Down For What – DJ Snake and Lil’ John

This song makes my ears bleed. But it’s danceable – especially if your guests are into krumping.

16. Ain’t It Fun – Paramore

It’s not about love, but I’m just biased toward Paramore. It’s a nice one for cocktail/dinner time.

17. Latch – Disclosure feat. Sam Smith

The lyrics are about love. It has one of those medium tempos that are hard to place… so know your crowd.

18. Not A Bad Thing – Justin Timberlake

Super sweet love song from JT! For cocktail/dinner time.

So there you have it! If you haven’t already, check out our favorites from 2013.

Marriage Mondays | Opposites Attract

Welcome to a new series! Marriage Mondays! I am not a marriage expert, just learning as I go, but I thought it would be fun to share my thoughts.

My husbands and I are opposites in so many ways. In a psychology class I took in graduate school I was told that the expression “birds of a feather flock together” is more accurate than the expression “opposites attract,” as it pertains to relationships. Hmm…

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I suppose, in the grand scheme of things, we are alike. We both love Jesus. This is important. We are both, in my estimation, pretty easy going people as a whole, but also uncompromisingly passionate about the things that matter most to us. We are both sort of hippies – if we didn’t have jobs and ‘sponsibilities, we would probably both be thrilled to spend a few weeks camping in the woods and exploring the great outdoors. We both love music.

But in a lot of ways, we are polar opposites. I am convinced that God designed us this way so that we are forced to learn from each other. Because really, there is no other option.

He is clean. I am messy.

He is a morning person. I am a night person.

He likes schedules. I like spontaneity.

He processes everything silently. I process everything out loud and with as many words as possible.

He has biblical wisdom. I have street smarts. (Ok just kidding. Shall we call it… emotional/relational intelligence?)

He is methodical. I am lackadaisical.

He is extroverted. I am introverted.

I would go on, but I think you get the point.

One of the most profound statements made by the pastor who did our premarital counseling was… your spouse is like a mirror. They will help you to see yourself. The good and the bad.

I have learned three major things from my mirror: optimism, compromise, and humility. First, I have to appreciate my spouse for all that he is, even when the differences threaten to drive me crazy. (I call this optimism.) Second, we have to find compromises that work for both of us. And third, we both have to recognize our weaknesses (which have a tendency to become blatantly obvious, since they are usually the others’ strengths) and be willing to grow/change/evolve. It’s humbling.

Some examples…

I love my husband because he is passionate. This also means that he is intense about things. For instance, it’s very difficult for us to find television shows that we can watch together because he hates anything with too much sexual content/humor or anything too dark, depressing or violent. So basically… everything on television. And I LOVE tv. The positive side of this is that I have greatly reduced the amount of material with which I rot my brain. (My remaining guilty pleasure is the Bachelor/Bachelorette, which I watch with a girlfriend.) I have to keep in mind that if my husband weren’t passionate, he wouldn’t be this intense. (He cares about what he watches because he wants everything he does to be pleasing to God.) If he wasn’t passionate, I’m pretty sure I wouldn’t be that into him. I mean looks don’t last forever, amiright? So that’s the optimism talking. The compromise = Parenthood. One of the best shows ever created. It’s not Leave It To Beaver, but it is tame enough for my man to enjoy, and the writing + acting + character development makes me very happy. When we watch tv, that’s what we watch. When we finish the series we will have to find a new compromise.

He loves to keep busy… to feel that he is accomplishing things all the time. I love to relax. He loves to do ministry and would be happy to be around people 24/7. I need lots and lots of quiet time to balance the people time, or I will go bananas. The optimistic side of me reminds myself that this comes back, once again, to his passion for God and people. The compromise is that we do a LOT of ministry, but we also have a lot of mellow and relaxing time at home. (When we first got married I could almost see the ants in his pants during these times, but he has adjusted to life with an introvert.) And we both have a constant awareness of our differences in this area and how we can grow as a result.

And as you can see from the list above, I have a lot of not so amazing qualities that my husband has learned to be optimistic about. He said in his marriage vows to me that he would always focus on what he loves about me and not on my flaws. So far he has done an amazing job at keeping that promise. He tells me that because of the fact that relationships with people are my #1 priority in life, cleaning and organization take a back seat. Which is totally true, and I love that he gets that. Not that he doesn’t get annoyed with the mess sometimes… but he doesn’t dwell on it. This is an area that I am always working on – that’s the humility part. We’ve made several compromises in that area as well. (He does dishes, I do laundry, etc.)

So that is what I’ve learned so far from being as different as can be from the man I married. Looking forward to a lifetime of learning.

Are You There Community? It’s Me, Colleen

It’s honesty time around here.

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I have been struggling with the goals, vision, and general management of this blog for almost a year now. Prior to that I pretty much neglected the blog for the 8 months that my husband and I were engaged, because it was just too overwhelming to balance work, planning a wedding, and blogging.

Since I have returned, I have attempted to get the blog back to what it used to be… but something is missing. And I know what it is. It’s COMMUNITY.

Recently I was reading through (very) old posts, and I noticed a theme: lots and lots of comments. When I started out, I managed to find myself in a community of amazing wedding bloggers without whom this blog would not have gone anywhere. They supported me, encouraged me, and they got me through the difficult times. (Blogging may seem easy but believe me, it isn’t.)

I’ve realized now that it wasn’t about the mutual promotion that we gave each other, or about what we could do for each other, it was just about being with one another in the process. I don’t miss the comments because they made me look good. I miss them because I felt like someone was reading, someone cared.

You see, the wedding blogging world is very different from the world of other bloggers. Our target readers are brides (and grooms, but more often brides) planning their weddings. They are a transient audience. Once their wedding is over, they have no need for us anymore. There is always, of course, the wedding-obsessed single girl with no boyfriend in sight (like I once was) but even she will eventually find her man, get married, and the obsession will fizzle out.

I write this blog for brides. I originally intended it, and still intend it to be a resource for planning music for your wedding day. I don’t want to be a cookie cutter wedding blog, and try to be like everyone else, because my goals for this blog are different from the goals of the average wedding blog. But as I struggle with this, and as I try to “reinvent the wheel” (so to speak) on a regular basis, continually writing about wedding music, there is a bigger issue at hand. Who is listening? Who is with me?

So, with all that said, I will not be posting for the next couple of weeks or so. Instead, I will focus all my blogging energy on going out to find the community I once had, and lost. I will be commenting, tweeting, facebooking, etc. to support, encourage, and promote my fellow wedding bloggers. Because community is a two-way street. I was the one who dropped the ball, walked away from it for months, and then selfishly expected it to be tossed back to me when I returned.

So here I come, wedding bloggers. Just know that I’m not doing it because I need you to promote me back, I’m just doing it because I don’t want to be alone in this.

And for the rest of you, look for me on social media, and for some amazing inspiration from my colleagues.

xo

Laura Hernandez - March 24, 2014 - 10:52 pm

I think this is a GREAT idea! I’m in the same boat. I blog a few times a week and when you receive a comment, it makes it all worth it. Comment love here I come!

Stephanie Howard - March 25, 2014 - 3:47 am

It’s not a bad idea about what you are doing, but in order to build you need to have something for them to come to while you are still building. So maybe you can just update with old posts while you are looking for new material. It may still help someone where they are now. I used your blog as inspiration for my wedding which was over 2 years ago. I still like to come here to hear about your love for your husband and all things wedding. I think now that you are married it may be harder to have the passion to help other brides, but just remember that you were there too. and even with all your resources that maybe while planning you felt alone or like no one was listening. Well I was listening. I don’t comment often( I think the last time may have been about Ryan Gosling) but we are still here!! And we will be whenever you are ready to talk! Good luck to you!

Mini Playlists | 50′s Pop

Welcome to our new feature – mini playlists! An inspiration board + mini playlist to shake things up and keep it interesting. Starting with… 50′s pop! Inspired by this inspiration shoot on Green Wedding Shoes photographed by Christa-Taylor Photography. And what better to accompany 50′s pop art inspiration than 50′s pop music?? Enjoy!

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Bridal Entrance: At Last – Etta James

Recessional: Let The Good Times Roll – Shirley & Lee

Reception Entrance: Let’s Have A Party – Wanda Jackson

First Dance: In The Still Of The Night – The Five Satins

Father/Daughter Dance: Ain’t That Love – Ray Charles

Cake Cutting: You Send Me – Sam Cooke